Holly and Grace
We have the most giant holly bush you have ever seen outside our house. It lines the front of our property from one end to the other, almost 100 feet in length. It has grown so high that we lose our view in the summer and my husband has to get a really tall ladder out every year and trim it down. It’s so wide that you can walk around inside of it. When we first purchased the property we discovered that teenagers used to party inside this holly hedge. It was so much fun to load up bags and bags of their party leftovers and haul that nastiness to the dump. We continue to keep this giant holly bush because it looks like a real bugger to get rid of plus it serves as a privacy hedge between our yard and all the school traffic outside our home.
I will never forget the first year we lived on the property. One December evening, just before dark, Rob noticed a family van parked up the hill at the end of the hedge. He heard ruffling in the bushes and so he went outside and found a lady cutting herself some holly. Now, let’s be real…
She was a mom with a family van.
And her family van was running with her kids inside it.
And she was stealing our holly.
And then she was gonna hop in and take off as soon as she got her loot.
She didn’t knock on our door and ask if she could cut it down. She was helping herself to our landscape. When Rob came in and told me what he had discovered, I didn’t feel so jolly about it. My response was rude and sassy, kind of like “What did you tell that entitled crazy mom who has no right to steal our holly? I should have stole her van with the kids in it.” Ok, maybe my response wasn’t that aggressive and vindictive, but I was definitely feeling the “that’s stealing and you better have given her a piece of your mind and told her to scadaddle” vibe.
So I pressed Rob, “Whaaaaat did you say to herrrrr??!!!”
This is where I was waiting for my husband to say that he said “This is our property- step off.” Or “Hey, ask next time.” Or “Here, eat a berry.” But no! You know what my husband said to this holly thief right when he caught her stealing? He said, “Oh hey, let me help you find the good stuff.”
“Oh hey, let me help you find the good stuff?” I could not believe it.
Yeah, that’s what Rob said and then he went and helped her find the best holly berries on the entire property. Rob has a quiet grace, it’s perhaps what I like best about him…and least….when I have a moment where my heart missed the grace train. And I know where my husband gets it…
You know what Jesus is like? Jesus is like that.
Jesus has been made out to be grumpy, lacking grace and making sure to remind people of their wrongs and send them packing, like me. But no, not Jesus. Jesus is a God who says to thieves and entitled trespassing moms and to those who go and totally blow it, “Oh hey, let me show you where the good stuff is.” And Jesus says it right when they get caught doing the very thing they know they ought not to.
Jesus’ grace is a shocking grace. It’s a grace that is, in the moment, completely unexpected. And in fact, more than unexpected, it goes above and beyond to shower the underserved with forgiveness AND gifts of goodness. This kind of grace is almost hard to receive because the recipient feels unworthy of such a gift considering the circumstances. I mean, who wants to be the girl trespassing and stealing in a holly hedge caught by a guy in Carhartt overalls who then offers you all you wanted and more? Nobody wants to be that girl. It’s almost like Jesus’ grace wears tough durable work pants too and He says “Hey you! You in the holly bush stealing stuff, let me lead you to the best place to get what you are looking for.”
I see Jesus extending this kind of quiet grace with the woman caught in the act of having sex with someone other than her husband. Everyone else wanted to stone her, but not Jesus. He stays standing with her making sure she knows that even in her thievery, He will not forsake her. In fact, Jesus goes on to invite her into something better too.
I see Jesus living out this kind of shocking grace when He is hanging on a tree, dying like a criminal, and next to him is a thief who actually deserves punishment. Jesus extends a stupefying grace that invites this thief to take a seat with Him in paradise, the forever place.
I see Jesus do this with the tax collectors who stole from people on the daily by pocketing a portion of their collections after threats to those they collected from. This Jesus shows up on one of these bully’s days at work and calls Matthew to follow Him. Jesus knows what this guy has been up to and it’s right smack dab in the middle of taking advantage of people that Jesus says, in a sense, “I’ll show you where the good stuff is and it’s not here. Come, let’s go pick some fruit.” And Matthew’s story moves from one of thievery to one of grace.
And you know what took place the night, this crook, Matthew said yes to Jesus instead of pickpocketing poor people? A celebration! Matthew hosted a party at his house. It was at this party that religious people were sitting around sneering at Jesus because He was hanging out with all of Matthew’s friends. These Pharisees were saying “Whyyyyyy does Jesus eat with sinnnnnners like these? Whyyyyy does he hang out with thievvvves and hollllly stealers??”
These religious people were like me, stingy with grace, like there’s a shortage, judgmental like they forgot their own story, and exclusive, choosing to surround themselves with people who only share the same struggles they have, caring more about being right, than loving well. And Jesus’ quiet grace shocks the entire party when He says “It’s not the healthy who need a doctor but the sick. I desire mercy not sacrifice.”
I don’t think it’s an overstatement to say that it would change our entire world if Jesus’ people got what this means.
I guess I should start with me.
And maybe you can start with you.
Mercy in a holly hedge looks like Rob’s response not mine. Mercy at the Christmas dinner table looks like grace in the MIDST of the offense, not 10 years later. Mercy in relationship looks like giving up your right opinions and instead taking up Jesus’ shocking grace for those who have wronged you, hurt you, backstabbed you, and stolen from you.
And you know what? This kind of grace looks like more than just forgiving or not pressing charges. It looks like astounding someone by going above and beyond to bless them. Remember it is our God who says “If someone slaps you on one cheek, give them your other cheek. If someone wants your shirt, give them your coat too. If someone forces you to go one mile, go two.” It’s almost like this Jesus would say “If someone steals your holly, invite them to take the entire lot.”
I see Jesus extend grace to me over and over again and yet when a chick is stealing off my property my first response is to be stingy, to point out how I have been wronged, to put her in her place, and to tell her what’s up. And yet Jesus challenges me to have this quiet grace that stuns others by how giving and good my response is to their mistakes.
This Christmas may we be a people who hand out holly like its going out of style. Let’s also amaze people with grace, passing it out in abundance, knowing it’s Source never runs out. God’s grace does not cease nor does it expire. God’s grace changed me. It changes me. And God’s grace is what will change our world.
Grace begets grace begets grace.
This holiday season may we extend grace and shock all the thieves, trespassers, and adulterers. Religious Pharisees will be appalled. And sinners will be in paradise. When we greet each other with “Merry Christmas” may we have the quiet grace of our Lord who wore thorns, like found on the holly, for those caught stealing berries, so we would forevermore know, His grace abounds for all of us who get exposed in the brier.
Merry Christmas friends! If you get caught up in anything, may you get caught up in His grace- Willow
That was so well stated – words from our Lord through you, Willow. Thank you for sharing. Great reminder and exhortation.
Hugs, Love, Prayers, and Blessings to you and your family for Jesus’ Birthday,
Keeping it in mind to pass out grace with no end…this season and always! Love it-thanks for the great message!
Thanks Willow! I needed this today. Someone close to me hurt me. I managed to keep my mouth shut in the moment but fumed about about it silently. Remembering the grace offered to me, I will offer it to her even though I don’t want to darn it!
I know its hard but I also know that when we respond with grace, we sleep better at night:) Merry Christmas friend! May you experience overwhelming grace so you have lots to share with others!