Breaking Generational Trauma: The Moment My Son Said Something I’ll Never Forget
At my book launch party, surrounded by friends and family, my son got up to give a toast and said something that completely wrecked me in the best way.
He said, “I’m so thankful you wrote this book… so I didn’t have to.”
It hit me and everyone present. I started weeping, and so did many of our friends. Aidan was basically saying: You let God heal the pain you inherited… so it wouldn’t become mine.
Is there a better thing your adult child can say than that? All the years of pain and trauma. All the secrets, neglect, self-doubt, loneliness, insecurity, grief. All the prayers, therapy, and going back to Jesus again and again for help, and my kids, they see why it was worth it. They feel it. They see the agony I went through, yes, but they also see God’s healing, His redemption, His rescue. And they feel it in their own lives.
I am so grateful to Jesus! He truly can break the chains of the generations. He truly can take the generational sin and wounds you inherited and halt them. This is not lip service. I am talking to you from real-life experience–the pain can stop with you.
But it does not happen magically, and it does not happen overnight. If you have unresolved pain or unprocessed trauma, you won’t just wake up one Wednesday and be healed. If you have your father’s anger or your mother’s tendency to numb, that won’t just disappear because you hope it will.
You, my friend, must say yes to God’s invitation to healing, and then you must commit to participating in that healing.
And yes, it’s work, but the work is worth it. Take it from me. My grandmother passed her pain to my mother, who passed her pain onto me, and I was so easily going to pass it onto my kids. So to hear my children express gratitude to God for breaking the chains that have bound our family line for so long—wow—all the work was so worth it.
And you are WORTH it and so are the people you love most.
You are worthy of peace, connection, health, stability, goodness, love, and freedom. So friend, if I can pop into your life today and say one thing, it is this: You will not look back and ever regret saying yes to God’s healing in your life, but you will regret putting it off to tomorrow, and the next day, and the next week, and the next month.
Before you know it, procrastinating your health and healing will leave you still hurting a decade from now. And every day that you push off healing, your pain will leak out sideways. It will grow contagious. It will pass down and wreak havoc on your kids, your friends, your spouse, and the people you serve and lead.
So today is the day. Say yes to healing big hurt and small. Say yes for yourself and for the people you care about most.
The story doesn’t have to end with us… but the hurt, mess, and dysfunction can.
XOXO
P.S. If this resonates with you, this is exactly why I wrote a book—to help you walk through your own healing journey.
